Surely each of you has a friend who gets along well with everyone. So, today we will share with you ten psychological tricks to manipulate other people, and perhaps after reading you will no longer want to be like your overly sociable acquaintance.
10. Contact a person by name
And the first trick is to just call your interlocutor by name. Of course, in a conversation with friends this will seem strange, but now we are not talking about that. For example, you got a new job, where there are a lot of people. And then the chef turns to you by name. “Wow, he remembered my name! This is a wonderful sign, ”think naive and overly impressionable people. Others believe that, using their name in the dialogue, they are treated with respect. In general, such a simple conversation detail is really good for the person you are talking to. So, the first step towards manipulating a person is already behind.
9. Ask for a service
This method works great provided that your status or financial situation is even the slightest, but higher than that of a potential victim. Suppose you have some influence (deputy department head or payroll accountant). Just unobtrusively ask a colleague of a lower rank about any service, and you will be very surprised how many sympathetic people are around. “Well, then, Mikhail Andreevich asked me, it’s simply unacceptable to screw up before him!” Or, people simply expect from you some kind of encouragement and a special attitude towards themselves. Of course, this is hypocrisy, but, alas, it is also part of human psychology. By the way, it’s very difficult for some people to refuse another person, so catching this on your own hook will not be difficult.
8. Initially ask for more than you need.
This is generally a golden rule for those who want to bend another person for themselves. Take a look. Initially, we lift up a high bar, to fulfill the indicator of which is not very realistic (it does not matter what it is about - the amount of work or the allocation of money). The second side believes that it should be so and is trying to fulfill this indicator. Of course, difficulties and problems arise along the way. We with an understanding look close our eyes to this, thus more and more disposing a person to ourselves. As a result, the victim did a great job, got our pseudo-trust, and we, in turn, just got as much as we originally needed. Voila.
7. Flatter
But with this trick you need to act carefully so as not to pass for a banal sneak. It is important to pay attention to details and subtleties. For example, a person is shy or simply "nerd." This is enough for a couple of epithets regarding his confidence or attractiveness, and he no longer listens to anyone else. Or here your friend can not get a girl. Just let him know that “it’s definitely not the matter, and these girls themselves do not know what they want,” and you will get the desired result. Well, if the “bricks” and “banks” begin to praise his pitching, then the case will automatically be transferred to the hat.
6. Reflect other people's behavior
It's no secret that almost everyone wants to be, if not better than everyone, then certainly wants to give odds to a colleague, neighbor and just that uncle. So why not give our victim a wonderful chance to be better than someone at least in words? When talking about something, gently hint to the interlocutor that he is an excellent family man, a diligent worker and a wonderful friend. It’s not that Vanka runs from his Svetka to the taverns, not that Andryukha the truant doesn’t receive the prize for the second month, and certainly not like Serega, who cannot give everything for three weeks. Believe me, this works perfectly. A person instantly exalts himself (if not outwardly, then in his head for sure) and considers your opinion authoritative. After all, who else will open his eyes to the “true” state of affairs.
5. Nod your head
Yes, nod your head when talking. And be sure to do it with a serious face, full of understanding and penetration with each word of the interlocutor. At the same time, it is still desirable to listen to what is at stake in order to nod at the right time. And do not get carried away too much so that the image of a Chinese blockhead or that Gerasim who agrees on everything does not appear in your opponent’s head in your face. In most cases, the interlocutor will really believe that you understand and share his point of view, and this is very important - after all, talking with understanding people is much more pleasant and productive. However, in reality, your nod is just an element of the psychological game.
4. Offer something that a person cannot refuse
Yes, yes, yes, our psychological traps are becoming more and more attractive. This method is perfect for those who know a couple of weaknesses of colleagues or acquaintances, who are trying to gain trust and favor for the sake of their insidious goals. Depending on the scale of the porridge you have brewed, anything can be used: imported beer, movie tickets, sweets, celebrity autographs. Money, after all. In general, absolutely everything the opponent is especially eager for, but at the same time it’s not a big deal to get it for you. People like it when they pay attention to their hobbies and Wishlist, and even more like it when a benefactor helps to realize them.
3. Keep calm
Calmness and confidence - these qualities are especially appreciated in every person. Unflappable personalities are extremely easy to earn trust. It seems to the interlocutors and just to people who are close by that you know everything in advance, and therefore do not panic. For them, your calm and equanimity is a sign that everything is going according to plan (in reality, this does not always coincide with reality). One way or another, people will be drawn to you in any case, if you behave calmly, measuredly and calmly, as if the whole situation is in your hands. It really produces the desired effect.
2. Use fatigue
Do we want to sort out and discuss this or that issue in detail at the end of the working day? Do we wish, having worked hard, to delve into the meaning of the interlocutor’s request for a long time? Of course no. Being tired, it’s easier for a person to carry out an assignment so that they are more likely to be left behind than to get into the course of business and consider the decision. That is why selfish people can use the fatigue of another person to their advantage. You must admit that in the late evening, when you are tired, and in the morning, when you are still vigorous and mentally active, a look at the same work varies significantly. It is possible that under the influence of fatigue, you did what you should not have done at all, if only you had not been pulled again today.
1. Repeat the words of your interlocutor
Also a very effective trick. Here we give the impression of not only interest, but also make it clear to the interlocutor that his words are not an empty phrase for us and have weight. After all, it’s nice when you uttered a successful phrase or described the situation so succinctly that your opponent has no choice but to quote you. However, in reality it is again a psychological game. Repeating the words of the interlocutor, we not only make it easier for us to have a conversation (we do not need to invent beautiful words and expressions once again), but we also inspire him with pseudo-confidence. Say, well said, a colleague! And now it’s much more pleasant for the interlocutor to communicate with us.