But have you been haunted by a constant sense of deja vu recently? Yes, not one that was accidental once, but such an obsessive, drawn-out, daily ... The same people, the same actions, the same inaudible, dim sensations every day, week after week, month after month. Then something from the series “The soul carried a bag of leather, stuffed with meat and bones, for hated work, at eight.”
Next - 8 hours of stupid sitting in front of the monitor at work for a long time, attempts to manage to do at least something useful in a day. Long, exhausting last nerves, sticking out in traffic jams in the evening. The same tasteless dinner (and what am I even chewing? Yes, do not care ...). Some sort of another endless serial epic (opupeya) before going to bed. And, finally, a tired fall in bed until the next (exactly the same!) Morning. Someone, of course, also has the second half (and chirps, and chirps, infection ...), and children (can you not yell and sit still?!) ... An endless, senseless, monotonous carousel ...
Eeeh, my friend, but your life really cracked! Do something already! After all, it is not so long to drive yourself into the deepest depression, it will take you a long and painful time to get out of it (and not the fact that you can deal with it yourself). For starters, carefully read these 10 points, and if at least 3-4 of them are similar to your current one, act immediately! Alarm! Get yourself out of the routine of everyday life before it gobbles you up!
10. Do you hate your job?
Sunday evening hours are almost mourning for you, because you feel with full responsibility that you need to go to work again tomorrow. (Nooo!) When you approach your office, you want to turn around and run away from it in the opposite direction with all possible speed. You are ardently waiting for Friday from Monday morning, counting the days in the calendar before the next big holiday (after all, there will be several additional non-working days). The whole year is divided into two parts for you: from the New Year holidays to the holidays (oh yes! Finally!) And from the first day after the holidays to the New Year holidays (Lord, why are they so short ?!). So stop it!
And you do not want to finally sit down and think, what is the matter, actually? What specifically does not suit you in your work? You have too many responsibilities; or the work you do daily is too boring; or you hate your colleagues (or maybe they don’t like you); bosses do not value you, even though you are in fact the best specialist; or do you get to and from work too long? In any case: thank God, you are not a tree that is forced to grow in the same place! You CAN at any time take and change jobs, find what you like best. So what was the matter?
9. You refuse to communicate
Yes, of course, from time to time, we all want to be alone for a while: gather our thoughts, think about our future plans, or, finally, just relax a little. But if this already goes into “permanent mode” (you do not want to see friends or relatives, any intimate gatherings or even just ordinary conversations cause you longing or sharp rejection) - the situation is alarming.
Even if you have a lot of personal problems, and it seems that no one, absolutely no one understands you (vile little people!) And does not want to help (but who cares about someone else’s grief?), Subconsciously you still feel that this is not so. Do not lock up, do not take out the brain to yourself for days and nights! After all, there is, for sure, such a person who can tell everything, and he will listen and sympathize, and maybe even cry with you, he will support and give excellent advice on how to get out of a situation that seems hopeless.
8. You are not interested in anything in this world
If for a long time you have been experiencing, mainly, only one emotion - indifference, if you are not surprised by the latest scientific news, not interested in books or movies, not entertained by fresh jokes and memes on the Internet, not touched by children and animals, not admired by beautiful sunsets and sunrises, if you do not want to learn anything new (why?), finally ask yourself: “And why the hell do I even live then?” (excuse me for being straightforward).
Don't you think it's time to do something about this? Well, is there at least something in this world that can “stir up” you? Something that you have long wanted, but did not dare to try? Traveling alone across Africa, some kind of new, super adrenaline sport, any unusual kind of creativity ... No? Well then to you to the psychologist (or even to the psychiatrist), - alas, you personally missed your chance to cope with the problem.
7. You got a bunch of bad habits
A bottle of beer in the morning will not only not hurt, but also cheer up. And on Friday night, God himself ordered to bite “in the mess” in the company of his friends who were having a lot of rest. On Saturday, you must definitely get a hangover (otherwise the head bursts, horror!). And now, perhaps, I will cook this pizza all at once. And then I’ll snack with a large piece of cream cake and drink it with sweet soda. ABOUT! No no! I’d better eat the cake when I’ll play Skyrim all night (oops! At the same time I’ve fed the keyboard ...)
Sport? Which sport? I haven’t watched coob here yet, and memasics themselves don’t tear apart. And, again, the new season of the favorite series has come out (yeah, I’ve been watching the fifth year, I don’t miss it). Well, congratulations, you are simply trying to run away from problems, “hammer” them with the appearance of violent activity, stupidly hide your head in the sand, instead of sorting out your own (by the way, not disappearing from your stubborn ignoring) troubles. Aw! Get back to reality!
6. "But from Monday ..."
Yes, even from Monday, even from Easter, even from Catholic Christmas, no matter how much you set a new term for yourself, no matter how much you appoint that treasured day, from which everything will abruptly take, and will change for the better ... Well, you know, that this will not happen.
Tell me honestly, honestly, once again you promise yourself to start running in the mornings from June 1, to look for a new job right after the New Year, to quit smoking on Monday? Well and how, at least once something came true? You have only one life - and you cannot live it first "on the rough", and then repeat it, but with all the mistakes made. Live here now!
5. You do not care about yourself and your home
You haven’t invited anyone to visit you for a long time, because even cockroaches have already escaped from your completely neglected “den”: in the corner under the ceiling a spider Arkady (by the way, an excellent guy) weaved a gorgeous web, dirty dishes in the kitchen “creep out” from the sink onto the table, under the sofa for a couple of weeks now, the hamster has been self-sufficient in food, got lost in the rustling wrappers of fast food, and the floor is so dirty that you can already plant potatoes in it. And you yourself proudly lie on a crushed sofa in colorful "family members" and a T-shirt stretched out in all directions, lazily combing a round hairy puzzo.
You seem to be quite comfortable, but something is still wrong ... In fact, everything is simple - you are not only used to the fact that not everything in your life is going as smoothly as you would like, but you have definitely given up on it by hand. You gave up! Well, wimp, got up from the couch, turned on the vacuum cleaner and tidied up at last! Now take care of yourself: wash, cut your hair, and renew your wardrobe. Voooot! I put myself and my house in order - restore purity and beauty in your own life. Are you a man or a complete loser ?!
4. Do you live in the past or dream a lot about the future
Oh, I remember, in my student days, - that was life! A bunch of friends, young and beautiful girls, fun feasts, hiking with bonfires and tents, excellent health ... Yes, and all the problems seemed kind of fearless and unimportant, and everything was ahead, and dreams came true. And now: home - work - home, and a mortgage, and a back ache, and my wife is sawing ... Or vice versa: I studied hard in my youth, I work hard in adulthood, but nothing, I'll dig it up for another 5-7 years and everything will work out ( I’ll go to the Maldives, buy a two-story house, finally marry a fashion model).
Are you sure that all the best is already behind you? Do you know for sure that you can survive (and endure) to the Maldives without having completely driven yourself to work and not having “caught” an extensive heart attack one day? Here the advice is the same as in paragraphs 6 and 7: return to reality and live here and now!
3. You have nowhere to "recharge"
Previously, when you felt bad or sad, or were overcome with resentment and anger, you dealt with it quite easily: did sports to exhaustion, threw darts at the portrait of the evil boss, went to the forest with a camera to take pictures of birds and beautiful landscapes, or went to car traveling with friends. But for some reason, recently all this has ceased to work (and if it works, then very briefly), your moral charge has completely run out. What, nothing helps at all, even that from which you used to come into real delight? This is bad, very bad ... Perhaps you should already go to a psychologist.
2. Absolutely everything infuriates and annoys
Today you were enraged by a colleague who asked when you would hand over the quarterly report (despite the fact that you have been ready for the report a long time ago, you just forgot to send it to your boss by e-mail yesterday, and actually it’s not long to fix it). A little later, you loudly and irritatedly pounded a coffee cup with a spoon, angry at a waiter who, in your opinion, had been taking the bill for too long (although, in fact, the guy came up to you in just 3 minutes).
And yesterday, you generally yelled at the kettle, because it boiled for a long time. You are furious with the news on TV, the music your daughter is listening to, you are ready to literally burst into tears because your favorite team lost with a difference of only one point. Sometimes you feel like a Hulk - “Breaking, breaking!”
Well, maybe it's time to find out why you are constantly annoyed and unhappy? What really bites you? This negativity is not taken out of nowhere, it is created by some unsolved problems. So be aware of them and try to decide once and for all!
1. You became a hostage of your own phone
Oh yeah! Total dependence on gadgets is one of the main problems of our time. Having barely opened our eyes in the morning, we grab onto the phone, smartphone, iPhone, etc. An urgent need to see if there are any new messages. What is there in social networks? ABOUT! By the way! Tanya is now in Tai with a new guy. Surely she already scored her entire Instagram with nauseous pictures in the style of "Me and my sweet bunny."
And this is the whole day: we follow the lives of others, forgetting about our own (and also about the fact that only the best moments and the most successful photos are posted on the social network, and nobody has canceled the photoshop yet). As a result, some of us get involved in the useless race “And I am the coolest of all!”, Include imagination and improve technical skills, trying to make our photos as attractive as possible and create the appearance of a rich and always eventful life. And others stupidly fall into a depression of envy (why does he have everything, why does he go to Goa or Bali 4 times a year, and I work like Papa Carlo, but still I can not afford to go under palm trees against the azure sea ?).
The result is self-esteem, which fell to the level of the plinth (moreover, often, in the first and second cases), depression due to unfulfilled “Wishlist”, etc. Just try to “stick” less often in gadgets and live a real life. It is difficult, who argues? But is it possible?