Many of us are afraid to go to a psychologist, because But if the baby needs a consultation with a psychologist, you should not refuse the help of specialists, especially since now there are also private clinics.
If you wish, you can find a good psychologist on the Internet and arrange a consultation via Skype.
To pretend that nothing is happening is also not right, because Unresolved psychological problems are a direct path to neurosis and even serious mental illness, which will be much more difficult to cope with.
How to understand that a child needs the help of a psychologist? There are several symptoms that indicate problems.
10. Restless sleep
The causes of sleep disorders can be many: non-compliance with the daily routine, a feeling of hunger, various diseases, etc.
Sometimes children cannot fall asleep due to emotional stress and constant stress, for example, if mom has ended maternity leave and she goes to work. Or the baby is simply afraid of something.
This often happens in children 2-6 years old. If the child is half asleep, sits on the bed, cries and screams, this suggests that he is tormented by fears.
Some kids are worried about nightmares. If they appear regularly, for example, once a week, it is worth showing the child to a specialist.
9. Talk of death
If a child of 6-7 years old begins to ask questions about death, it is not so scary. At this age, the idea of the world around him, including death, begins to take shape. The kid can not get past this important point and will ask questions.
But the teenager, who decided to take his own life, will constantly talk about death. This is an alarm bell. Often children do not tell their parents about their problems, but they can trust a stranger. If he is a professional, he will be able to find a common language with the child and help him cope with the problem.
8. Abrupt change of habits
A sharp change in habits should alert parents. If a teenager began to skip school, use alcohol, drugs, this can not but worry his parents.
Children often succumb to evil influence or go after their idols. It is important to explain to them that this is the road to nowhere.
Curing an addict is very difficult. But, even if he undergoes a rehabilitation course, there is no guarantee that he did not catch any dangerous disease, for example, hepatitis.
Some diseases are not treated, but adolescents do not know about it. Because of youthful maximalism, they may not listen to their parents, but will heed the words of a good psychologist.
7. Constant sadness for no reason
During the puberty period (at 12-15 years), adolescents may manifest depression. The reasons are very different, including parental pressure, quarrels with classmates, etc.
One of the signs of depression is sadness, the child does not enjoy life, perceives himself negatively, etc.
Parents need to understand that depression is not just sadness, but a disease. It needs to be treated.
It is not necessary to go immediately to a therapist. It is better to find a good psychologist who will help the teenager cope with his problems.
6. The desire to isolate
Some children find it difficult to communicate with their peers, as communication causes them a strong emotional stress.
If the relationship does not work out, peers begin to offend, do not reckon with him, then such communication causes emotional discomfort in the child. And he does not want to communicate with other children, he becomes closed and sullen.
The psychologist must know how to build relationships with other children. If he works with your child, he will be able to overcome his shyness and find friends.
5. Serious problems at school
Sometimes even adults cannot cope with their problems, although they already have experience, knowledge, and accumulated wisdom for years.
What can we say about the child who still knows little. If he has a negative perception of the surrounding reality, he is rude, rude, it is possible that over time problems may arise in school.
It is impossible to re-educate an almost adult person. But the psychologist, if he finds an approach to him, can discuss all his problems with him and suggest what needs to be done. He sees the situation from the side, it is easier for him to understand the situation.
4. Inability to control anger
Anger is one of our core emotions. Anger is normal, it is a natural reaction of a person to a situation. It is impossible to suppress it, because it is part of human nature. But anger needs to be controlled and taught to children, because vandalism, violence and abuse can be an unacceptable expression of anger.
A child should learn from childhood that one should not kick, fight, bite, i.e. cause physical harm to other people. It is unacceptable to spoil other people's things, to swear at parents and other people. If you are having problems, ask a psychologist to work with your child.
3. Animal bullying
Often aggression, the child vents anger on a weaker creature. He is afraid of parents and other adults, peers can fend for themselves, and negative feelings need to be thrown out at someone.
Next to us live defenseless animals that suffer from such young flayer. But the position "this child is bad" is wrong. There are no bad children. He just needs to throw out his anger, to cope with despair and longing, i.e. talk to a good specialist.
2. Reluctance to listen to elders
Even those parents who do not have a teacher’s diploma have heard of teenage maximalism. Psychologists say this word should not be associated with negativity.
Adolescent maximalism is a spiritual revolution for an adult. During this period, everything for him is either white or black, he does not notice the midtones.
Such an impudent rebel, the maximalist will not listen to the words of adults, because She doesn’t want to live like everyone else, especially like his parents.
On the one hand, this is normal, the next stage of development. On the other hand, it can all end badly, because thirst for recognition, freedom can push a teenager to rash acts.
A conversation with an educated, intelligent interlocutor, the words of which adolescents listen to, will not hurt here.
1. Aggression towards others
Aggression is a special way of expressing anger directed at people or animals around you, sometimes at objects.
It is important to understand that emotions such as rage or anger are normal and should not be suppressed. It is important to correctly express them, learn to control.
An experienced psychologist will teach your child what to do and how.